I have not yet been privvy to the amount of judgement and comparison that goes on in the 'Mommy world.' Although I already consider myself Momma to our G Baby, most of my experience thus far has been observing other Moms and the way they handle the day-to-day of their new roles. I have been open to your advice, after all, many of you have been in my shoes before.
What I have been witness to is the amount of sheer judgement, cruelty and comparison that we women, as a whole, use on each other every day. Whether it be over the envy of a shopping spree a friend was just able to take, or perhaps the fact that someone's husband appears to work less or make more money than yours. I can only imagine the amount of comparison once your child reaches a certain age. Did he hit that milestone at the right time? Why does her daughter seem so much more well-mannered than mine? And the list goes on and on.
I have been blessed to be surrounded by many incredible women. God has truly given me a strong support system in the women he placed into my family, and those he placed into my life as lifelong friends. I have a handful of women that I feel comfortable calling at the drop of a hat to talk through my struggles, my worries and my successes. It is in these women that I have found me safe haven over the last few months. Of course, I can talk B's ear off every night when he comes home about how my body is changing or what skills G is developing in the womb this week. But women just hear and understand things differently. And they totally get what feeling (and looking) 27 weeks pregnant feels like, and that opening your closet each morning is no longer the lighthearted task it used to be.
But perhaps it goes beyond the small circle of my little world. I want to be less judgmental of the women around me. The ones I 'know' through the internet, or women I run into during my daily travels that are complete strangers. I want to compare myself less, and value the person I am more.
We have enough to deal with in this crazy world without nitpicking each and every thing that those around us say or do. As women, we take care of our homes, our children, our husbands, our work, and sometimes ourselves with the time we have left. I want to take this pledge seriously and work on building other women up. We are all trying to do our best, and although it may look different that the next girl, that is not the point. I want to be the friend that gets called for advice, for help, or just for a quick pick me up.
Will you join us in taking the Strong Moms Pledge?
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